I.Hate.Mornings. I also hate being late. The result of these two inconvenient realities is my alarm is set to go off 20 minutes before I know I have to be up. Dumb? Maybe. But I know I can hit the snooze twice before I have to get my rear in gear. It’s completely psychological. I also know that if I put my hair in a ponytail instead of actually drying and straightening it, there’s an extra 20-30 minutes of sleep for me! (Oh, the joys of being a chick…ever wish you could just shave your head? Everything would be so much easier!….Sorry, I’m a lil off topic…).
Being perpetually late is also utterly psychological. There is no excuse for it. Well… there are a million excuses, but it’s still ridiculously irresponsible. There is nothing more aggravating than being under the time constraints of a busy day, and being kept waiting by someone else who just decided it was OK to not show up at the appointed time. Rude much?! It’s an easily forgivable offense until it becomes a habit. Are you always late? Do you constantly find yourself to be the last person to arrive at an event? Did you ever wonder why this is?
Everyone is late from time to time. There are legitimate reasons for tardiness.
Like having a new baby. I may not have my own children, but I was a nanny for quite some time. EVERYTHING takes longer when there are kids involved, not to mention the fact that new parents are sleep deprived. They get a free pass.
Like being dead. Pretty sure this one is self explanatory.
Like being late once in a blue moon. You don’t make a habit of it, but sometimes last-minute things happen. A tire goes flat. You completely forgot you needed gas. You accidentally set your alarm for PM instead of AM. Generally speaking, though, you are early or on time.
Those are not the people who bother me. It’s the people you have to tell to show up to a birthday party 30 minutes before everyone else, because that might actually get them there on time. It’s the people who are late to work 3 out of 5 days a week. (Just because you made it on-time twice means nothing). It’s the people who walk in late to church EVERY Sunday. … you get the idea…
There are different reasons it happens.
Obliviousness – They operate in their own little world. Other’s time is of no concern. They don’t particularly even notice they constantly keep folks around them waiting.
Control – They get some sort of demented power trip by keeping other’s waiting and operating on their own time schedule. The clock is irrelevant. It’s quite common in Dr’s offices, and upper level executives. The amount of money you bring in is irrelevant. It’s still rude.
Irresponsibility – They are fully aware of being late, but it takes far too much effort to change the habit.
- There is no immediate reward to being on time. If they are late, there is often acknowledgement of such behaviour the minute they walk in the door. Ridiculous, yes? But it’s true.
- They are way too optimistic of their time management skills. They can’t/won’t calculate the difference it takes to get through rush hour traffic vs midday. They know it takes 10 minutes to apply makeup, but swear they can do it in 5. They are fooling themselves.
- They are addicted to drama. Being late causes a certain amount of anxiety and some people thrive on being under pressure.
It all boils down to Selfishness. You are not on this planet alone, and assuming you are not living as a hermit, you’re daily activities require you to interact with the fellow residents of the community. If you are habitually late, it is are causing them stress, possibly causing them to also be late, and sealing yourself into a reputation of being an idiot. No one cares how qualified you may be if you’re late to the interview. No one wants to hear what you have to say in a board meeting if you kept your co-workers waiting for 10 minutes while you finished up a call. No one will take you seriously in any capacity. Ever. Your own family will talk about how ridiculous your behavior is behind your back….and sometimes to your face. You just became Thanksgiving dinner conversation. Congrats. Hope you don’t have a date with you. That would be embarrassing. Your friends will start reconsidering whether to invite you to… well…anything, frankly. As I said in a previous post: Do us all a favor and grasp your right ear with your right hand, your left ear with your left hand. Make sure you’ve got a firm grip and pull your head out of your back-side. The earth revolves around the sun…not you.
Unfaithfulness in the keeping of an appointment is an act of clear dishonesty. You may as well borrow a person’s money as his time. ~ Horace Mann